January 20th, 2013 by Magdalena Tabor
In my ignorance then,
I thought places
And people and things
Would last Forever.
At least in my lifetime.
Now I search to find them
Gone. Or missing.
Perhaps to be found
Where I hadn’t looked before.

My dearest one…..
He’s not in that place they put him.
I can’t talk to the ground.
Why won’t he make his presence
I talk to the air instead.

Where did I put that thing?
Stolen. Or misplaced,
In the pocket
Of an old pair of jeans
I gave away.
Where is the note I wrote myself
Reminding me?

Help me find
My sanctuary.
The one I always run to
When things get out of sorts.
But it’s just an empty place.
As easily removed
As an old park bench.
So where do I go from here?


Despair and Depression: Root Cause – Hormones

January 19th, 2013 by Michael Tabor

Wow!!! For anyone who has ever suffered from severe depression, the movie to see is “Helen.” I’m stating the obvious when I say that the film is not an uplifting movie nor is it for everyone; I see that “Rotten Tomatoes” has rated it 33% out of a possible 100% – not very good at the box office, but that’s beside the point, everyone knows I hate mainstream features. Wow, what remarkably credible performances by both  Ashley Judd and also the supporting actress (don’t know her name) who played Mathilda – it must have been draining and exhausting – my God !
I’m not going to do a movie review and because this is a blog, I am not going to delve very deeply on all of the reasons why a person may become clinically depressed, but rather I’m going to write a little something looking through one miniscule lens; goes without mention,one would have to write a tome in order to shed any light  on such a perplexing, complicated, and misunderstood disease such as clinical depression.

Why was she depressed, one may ask ? The protagonist in the film, “Helen” had everything – she was attractive, intelligent, had a great job, she was musically gifted, married to a wonderfully supportive and loving husband, was upper middle class and financially secure, had a beautiful daughter, etc.

David Foster Wallace – real life, celebrated novelist and professor committed suicide on September 12, 2008 at the age of 46. He had it all one would think – fame, money, genius (and I mean genius, no one since James Joyce could even come close to David). Why would he throw away a life, his own, when he had what most of us can only dream and fantasize about. David also had drug and alcohol problems which is not unlike throwing gasoline on fire – but addiction and depression go hand in hand, sisters … self- medication. David Foster Wallace suffered from suicidal depression his entire adult life and when his loved ones begged him to LIVE – his response: (my words, but the essence of what David said) you’re asking me to refrain from jumping out of a house that is on fire and engulfing me – suffocating me, drowning me… I can’t explain.

My favorite book of all on the topic of depression was also written by another famous novelist, William Styron, ‘Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness’ Yes, that is correct, the same guy who wrote the best – selling, and book – turned – into  – movie ‘Sophie’s Choice’ became suicidally – depressed interestingly after he could no longer tolerate “drinking socially” – suddenly and abruptly making him violently ill, by the way. This little  book (maybe 100 + pages) encapsulated “WHAT” depression is, which can really only be conveyed via metaphor because it’s such a fishy affliction.

I have been studying and researching the causes and reasons for this crazy, irrational sort of illness for a long time. I believe that depression is neuronal & hormonal (I am not dismissing talk and cognitive therapy) and a physical disease that only medication and even under extreme circumstances, perhaps shock treatment, can cure.

WhaDaYaThink ? What do you think ? I am not a doctor, this is a blog and my opinion of course, so…  I hope this prodigiously serious illness isn’t misinterpreted as glib and facile – because I know what it’s like.   And Watch that movie!!! It’s the real thing and shouldn’t be 33%.


Should an Ex – Porn Star Be fired?

January 17th, 2013 by Michael Tabor
Well it depends, if she was an outstanding teacher who happened to have an ugly secret, then no. However, if she was anything less than excellent, then I would personally, give her the axe.
Stacie Halas, a middle – school science teacher from Oxnard, CA was fired after students learned that she was an ex – Porno star. Should she be fired?  Okay, this is a tough one and I’ll do a Ben Franklin (pros & cons) and see if this was a good move or not.

Why the teacher should not be fired:
This is a blatant infringement upon her civil liberties

She appeared in X rated films before she became a teacher

Her boyfriend left her and she literally had no $$ and no job

Stacie Halas has acknowledged the fact that, even though she was broke, this CERTAINLY was an unwise career choice

Where are the parents? Why are kids allowed access to pornographic material?

Finally, she did not break the law – appearing in pornographic movies with consenting adults is not against the law.

Why the teacher should be fired:
She is teaching children and therefore a teacher should be held to a higher standard than the average citizen should.

There are a lot of “attractive” women who are jobless and would never appear in a pornographic film.

Is it legal? yes, but let’s face it, it’s definitely immoral (I know morality is relative, but…)

By very definition, the supreme court has maintained that pornography has no artistic merit nor any redeeming value whatsoever. So, even though this was something in her past, a teacher’s job is not only about math, science, and English, it also involves imparting values and integrity.

So WhaDaYaThink ? What do you think ? I don’t know exactly where I stand on this one. Well, I guess I do (my first paragraph) but in my opinion, she would REALLY have to be an outstanding teacher – I mean a lot better than average. There are a lot of jobless teachers who don’t have that skeleton.

Grammar phobia – Go Slow or Go Slowly?

January 16th, 2013 by Michael Tabor

Here’s just a quick little grammar blog. Go slow is perfectly grammatically correct, so is run quick, plunge deep, and seldom speak. I, was as so many of us were taught, that ALL adverbs end in “-ly”, however there are exceptions to the rule. Isn’t English grammar a bitch?
Lately, a lot of people have been “arguing against gun control”  Really ? You’re arguing with a “gun” ?    Lol
So WhaDaYaThink? What do you think ?


Let Winter Be

January 16th, 2013 by Magdalena Tabor
Most won’t agree.
But I miss her icy
Frosted breath,
Forcing me to turn
Collar Up
Or wrap a scarf
About the neck.

The crystal clarity
Of cold.
To clasp another’s hand
To hold.
What warmth is there
In floods foretold?
Let Winter Be.

Still unconvinced are we?
Polar Bears perch
On one last chunk.
Adapt they must
Lest we adopt
The grim prospect
Of having none.

The crystal clarity
Gone are snows
As in days of olde.
Wait! A tiny flake
Of unmined gold.
Let Winter Be.


Okay – It’s a Start

January 15th, 2013 by Michael Tabor

Legislating a ban on assault weapons is indeed going to be a tall order, so yes I am pleased with today’s news calling for strict background checks. If you “try and lie”, you go to jail – that makes sense. I know that a criminal will just go on the black market, buy it on the street, or steal his mother’s guns, but we can’t just “do nothing.” The status quo is just not acceptable – this is indeed a step in the right direction toward curbing gun violence, even if only one life is saved.  New York approved the bill by 43 to 18; this makes NY the first state to act in response to the Newtown massacre but what I don’t get is that there were actually 18 nays – what sane, logical human being is not interested in keeping firearms out of the hands of the mentally ill or people with a criminal history.

I suspect that the naysayers don’t like the piece of legislation which states that people can no longer purchase semi – automatic pistols and rifles with detachable magazines – you know, the weaponry used in the military. However, the folks who already own these guns are still allowed to keep them, they just have to now register the weapon with the state. Like I said – baby steps; am I completely happy with this new legislation?  – No, for example I wish the law compelled the state to force the individuals to not only register the assault weapon, but also ensure that each and every gun – owner undergo a quick 1 hour psychological evaluation. The message should be clear: we will no longer tolerate the ownership of assault weapons by people who are mentally unfit to carry such a weapon.

The next baby steps are to now promote loudly and clearly the aforementioned message, so that the other 49 states in the nation follow suit. If this in fact happens, I can guarantee that we will curb gun violence. Okay, everyone knows my position and I’ve certainly spilled enough ink over gun control, so no now it’s your turn – WhaDaYaThink ? What do you think? Do you like the new laws New York has just passed? I’m proud to say that I reside in a state that acted first


I Like Global Warming – Lol

January 13th, 2013 by Michael Tabor
It’s Sunday, January 13 in New York and I don’t even have to put a coat on. The truth be told, we haven’t had a single cold day all winter; of course we have the rest of this month, February, and March but still. Whether or not we have frigid temperatures and tons of snow for the remainder of winter, the fact remains, that the climate has changed and scientists have confirmed that the planet is warmer.
Now the big question is: Is it our fault or is it just the earth’s normal course of events? The answer should be obvious to everyone except for excessively money – grubbing big business who see the human induced emissions of greenhouse gasses, but refuse to acknowledge it – “More government regulation with this economy, let my grandchildren worry about it”. It really is a form of denial or just a question of plundering gluttons who just don’t care about anyone but themselves. The notion that extracting fossil fuels from the earth and releasing prodigiously unspeakable amounts of pollutants into the air goes without major consequences is absolutely ludicrous. We are in a nutshell, killing ourselves! We as a collective species have been on the road of self – destruction and extinction since the industrial revolution. There isn’t a single accredited scientific body who disagrees with the fact that man – made pollution is responsible for the insidious destruction of the earth’s atmosphere.

Here is a brief list of the culprits:
Emissions by major industries

Power stations such as smoke stacks, power plants, manufacturing facilities, waste incinerators, etc.

Emissions from cars and trucks (just Google image LA smog and it will sicken you)

Fuel combustion in homes and businesses

The use of solvents and homes and businesses


I can go on and include household activities such as wood burning but don’t go crazy and get rid of your fireplace, besides, if we still had winters, there’s nothing more cozy than a drink and a nice fire on a cold night.

So to conclude, for the sake of our grandchildren, we MUST go green. I know many republicans have attacked the Obama administration for wasteful spending on solar investment but if we want to save the planet, we simply have no other choice.

So WhaDaYaThink ? What do you think? Note: if you’re really interested in the actual chemicals i.e. carbon monoxide, sulfer oxides, etc. just go to Wikipedia and plug in air pollution. The environment is just as important as the gun problem, whereas guns are really a national issue concerning only the United States, climate change is an international issue – global warming.


Hiccup or Hiccough

January 12th, 2013 by Michael Tabor

My wife said she had the hiccups before when in fact she had the hiccoughs – yep, everyone misspells it & mispronounces it including me – lol. Actually both are accepted – that’s the way the English language works, if enough people say it a certain way for a period of time, it morphs and evolves into generally accepted use.



Let’s Be Realistic

January 11th, 2013 by Michael Tabor
Although I have always hated guns and have expressed my antipathy for firearms my whole adult life, I know that I, legislators and everyone else who share my view have to be realistic about the shockingly dreadful epidemic we have in this country. The first thing we have to acknowledge and accept is that a ban on ALL guns is not possible and it’s not the solution anyway. Personally, I am an animal lover and don’t like hunting, but there are decent law – abiding citizens who do like to hunt – and that’s okay provided there are regulations and certain guidelines, etc. I also don’t have a problem with people who feel the need to own a gun for protection either – that’s not the problem nor the core issue.

The predicament we find ourselves in is, how to legislate and enforce a  ban on automatic and semi – automatic weapons with high capacity magazines. The banning of automatic weapons is a no – brainer, however semi – automatic weapons are a problem as well. No, a semi – automatic weapon is not a machine gun, however for those of you who don’t know, a person can fire as many as 5 rounds per second if you can move your index finger fast enough. Furthermore, these guns are so powerful, the bullets can actually penetrate self – protective steel armor (so forget about strapping on a bullet – proof vest every morning before you go to  school or work) Semi – automatic weapons ought to be for law enforcement and the military ONLY ! The ordinary citizen and defender of the second amendment doesn’t need a semi – automatic weapon for hunting nor for protection; additionally if you need a magazine that holds 30 rounds of ammo to hit your target, then my friend, you have no business owning a gun.
So WHADAYATHINK ? What do you think ? I have been spilling a lot of ink since the Newtown massacre because this is something that is so important and we as a nation have to do something about this – NOW!


What Did Brent Musburger Do Wrong?

January 10th, 2013 by Michael Tabor
Was Brent Musburger guilty of being over the top and perhaps  being a little silly during the BCS Championship game? Okay – yes, but certainly his behavior on the air did not warrant an apology from ESPN. Give me a break!  Why would anyone be offended by the comments made about A.J. McCarron’s (Alabama’s quarterback) girlfriend, Katherine Webb? If anyone doesn’t know already, Brent Musbeurger in a nutshell stated that Ms. Webb was a beautiful woman and jokingly went on to say that QB’s get all the gorgeous ladies. Not only did he publicly compliment her for her physical beauty, but in my opinion, he probably is going to make her a star. Unbelievably enough, after Musburger’s comment, her Twitter followers went from 1000 followers to a whopping 228,000 – why can’t that happen to me? lol. Furthermore, just to clarify, Mr. Musburger said nothing lecherous about her nor did he even remotely allude to anything suggestively lustful. To Katherine Webb’s credit she went on the ‘Today Show’ with Matt Lauer this morning and said that she wasn’t offended by anything Mr. Musburger said and acknowledged that the comments were innocuous. What made me laugh, was that Ms. Webb asserted that although an apology from the cable network was not necessary, and further elaborated that she even felt sorry for Musburger, she did still appreciate the apology. What ??? So much for beauty and brains.

I’m not going to spill a lot of ink over this non-story, but I am somewhat at a loss as to why a person can’t say anything positive about a woman’s physical beauty but yet one can talk at length about her intelligence, musical talents, business acumen, etc. My thoughts are that an asset is an asset so why not talk about it; like it or not being physically beautiful is a prodigious asset especially in this cosmetically superficial Madison Ave society we live in.
So WHADAYATHINK ? What do you think? Do you think Brent Musburger and ESPN owed the gorgeous Katherine Webb an apology ?